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Losing my son (fortressofdoors.com)

2437 points by lukeplato · 945 days ago · 395 comments on HN

Article summary

The author, Lars Doucet, shares his experience of losing his seven-year-old son Nikolas, who suffered catastrophic brain damage after a cardiac arrest during a hospital procedure. Nikolas is now alive but severely brain damaged, bedridden, and unable to care for himself. The author and his wife have taken Nikolas off medical supports and moved him into home hospice care, where they will care for him indefinitely. The author reflects on the devastating loss, the challenges of caring for Nikolas, and the need to find a new sense of normalcy.

Main themes

  • Grief and Loss
  • Trauma and Recovery
  • Love and Dedication
  • Normalcy and Purpose
  • Mental Health and Wellness
  • Spirituality and Faith

What commenters say

  • The article is a powerful and moving expression of grief and loss.
  • The author's decision to care for his son at home is a testament to his love and dedication.
  • The experience of losing a child is unimaginable and can never be fully understood by those who have not gone through it.
  • Some commenters shared their own experiences of loss and trauma, and offered words of support and advice.
  • The use of psychedelics and higher-level thinking can be an effective tool in mitigating the effects of PTSD and trauma.
  • The importance of seeking help and support from family, friends, and professionals is crucial in dealing with traumatic experiences.
  • The article highlights the need to find a new sense of normalcy and purpose after experiencing a devastating loss.
  • The experience of grief and loss can be a transformative and life-changing event that challenges one's beliefs and values.