Just don’t (tbray.org)

Article summary

The article discusses how using the word 'just' can be unhelpful when offering solutions to problems, as it diminishes the complexity of the issue and implies that the solution is simple. This can be particularly harmful when dealing with mental health issues or complex technical problems. The author argues that using 'just' can come across as dismissive and unsympathetic, and that it's better to acknowledge the difficulty of the problem and offer more thoughtful and nuanced solutions. The article also explores the etymology of the word 'just' and its various meanings.

Main themes

• language and communication
• empathy and understanding
• problem-solving and advice
• mental health and wellness
• boundaries and self-care
• effective listening and support

What commenters say

• Offering unsolicited advice can be harmful and come across as dismissive, even if it's well-intentioned.
• Some people may interpret complaints or discussions about problems as requests for advice or solutions, while others may just want to vent or be heard.
• Listening to someone's problems without offering solutions can be emotionally taxing, but it's also important to respect the person's boundaries and needs.
• Group therapy can be an effective way to learn how to support others without offering unsolicited advice.
• People may feel compelled to offer advice when someone complains about a chronic condition, but this can be perceived as insensitive or dismissive.
• It's possible to express empathy and understanding without feeling obligated to offer solutions or advice.
• Setting boundaries and being clear about one's own needs and limitations is important when engaging with others who may be seeking support or advice.