The author has given up on self-hosting their email after 23 years due to deliverability issues caused by big email providers' blacklisting and hellbanning practices. The author argues that these practices stifle competition and are unfair to small email servers. The article proposes changes to blacklisting protocols and suggests that the industry should self-regulate to prevent external regulation. The author believes that the current system is anti-competitive and discriminates against small email servers.