Ask HN: How do you deal with getting old and feeling lost?

Article summary

The author, approaching 35, feels unaccomplished and disconnected from life, having held various jobs, traveled, and had failed startups, with a substantial savings but no serious relationships. They express a sense of existential dread, feeling too old for certain activities and disconnected from excitement about new technologies. The author seeks advice on how to deal with these feelings. The post sparks a discussion on aging, fulfillment, and finding meaning in life.

Main themes

• aging and fulfillment
• existential dread
• finding meaning
• loneliness and connection
• personal growth
• financial security vs happiness

What commenters say

• Therapy can help address feelings of existential dread and disconnection that may arise in one's 30s.
• Traveling and exploring new experiences can change one's perspective and help redefine success.
• Having a substantial amount of money does not guarantee happiness or fulfillment.
• Engaging in activities that bring joy and connecting with others can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and disconnection.
• Some people argue that it's never too late to pursue new experiences or make significant life changes.
• Others suggest that certain activities, like playing video games, should be prioritized lower in life as one gets older.
• A shift in perspective, such as focusing on nature or personal growth, can help individuals find meaning and appreciation for life.
• Loneliness and disconnection can be significant factors in feelings of unhappiness, regardless of age or financial situation.