The article is a personal essay about the author's experiences growing up in Cambodia during the Khmer Rouge regime and later as a refugee in Vietnam. The author reflects on the loss of innocence and the erosion of 'softness' in the face of war, hunger, and brutality. The essay explores the author's memories of her childhood, her relationship with her mother, and the struggles of surviving in a war-torn country. The author also touches on the theme of resilience and the importance of holding on to memories and traditions in the face of adversity.