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Having Kids (paulgraham.com)

1992 points by yarapavan · 2495 days ago · 863 comments on HN

Article summary

The article discusses the experience of having kids and its impact on productivity and happiness. Although the article's text is not available, the comments suggest that having kids can be a life-changing experience that affects one's priorities and sense of fulfillment. The discussion reveals that people have different opinions on whether having kids makes them happier or more productive. Some comments imply that the article explores the challenges and rewards of parenthood.

Main themes

  • parenthood
  • productivity
  • happiness
  • selfishness
  • parenting styles

What commenters say

  • Having kids can make people less productive and more scheduled, but also more present and joyful in certain moments.
  • The decision to have kids is often driven by a natural and biological desire to preserve the species, rather than a rational or artificial want.
  • Some people believe that having kids does not necessarily make them happier, and that research suggests that parents may actually be less happy than non-parents on average.
  • Others argue that having kids can provide a sense of purpose and ambition, and that the experience of parenthood can be incredibly rewarding.
  • There is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, and what works for one family may not work for another.
  • Some commenters think that American parenting culture can be overly demanding and restrictive, and that a more balanced approach to parenting is needed.
  • Being a good parent does not mean being selfless all the time, and it is okay to prioritize one's own needs and desires as a parent.
  • The key to successful parenting may lie in finding a balance between being present and engaged with one's kids, and maintaining one's own independence and autonomy.